It has been a hot minute since I have done a long form video. It's been a minute since I've done a video period! LOL This video isn't my normal video. I wasn't even going to post this video. I usually record in landscape and have a shirt on. This one I recorded as if I'm recording a short. This video was a result of just speaking what I was feeling in the moment. I was just coming out of some deep shadow work and was integrating. I felt "off" as my body was adjusting to the release and shift in energy. I went in nature to ground and connect and to move to integrate a little more smoothly. So, I just turned the camera on and started talking. I thought it was clunky, not very polished as I spoke, and was all over the place. My ear buds were wanting to fall out so I was constantly trying to adjust them damn things! LOL!! At one point I accidentally stopped recording but kept talking unaware that the recording stopped. I was just planning to record for a minute or two. 27 minutes later and here we are! I was going to keep this video for me, and maybe take some ideas from it for content later. But when I went back and watched it for those ideas, I realized I was dropping some pretty powerful nuggets. I was like "Oh damn, I have to share this now." Screw it not being "perfect," polished, and me acting like I'm put together. Laughing Through Life isn't about being perfect. It's about being REAL and true to yourself. So here is the video. Why "Laughing More" isn't enough to create the life and business that lights you up. Sure, we all can benefit from laughing more, but most of us use laughter as a distraction, rather than the amazing powerful tool it is to harness and create quick shifts. I go deeper into what Laughing Through Life is, and what it is intended to do, and how I use it to help high-achieving entrepreneurs make their own rules and have more fun creating a life that lights them up. Laughing Through Life is more than laughing more, but it does lead to it. Enjoy! I'd love to hear from you...What resonated with you the most? ------------------------------------ Join the infamous Facebook Community The Laughing Through Life Project https://bit.ly/LTLproject Book a call and learn more about The Laughing Through Life Project Group Program https://bit.ly/20-min-insightcall ------------------------------------ Music by Atch Stream: linktr.ee/atchmusic Free Download: hypeddit.com/atchmusic/doittomyselfinstrumental

Stop doing the inner work and do this instead. Ya, ya, ya, I know this may turns some heads and trigger some people...And to that I say GOOOOD! LOL! I had this awareness lately. My guides have been telling me this for two years now...I can be a little stubborn, but I finally got it! I was constantly doing the inner work. Over, and over, and over....Finding something to work through. Using modality after modality to heal. I see this A LOT in the spiritual community. This constant need for healing to step into their highest version. Here is what I also see...Many people who are stuck and frustrated, wondering why they are not further ahead. I realized that I was constantly doing the inner work. The unconscious belief UNDERNEATH is what is shocking. I believe this unconscious saboteur is what is tripping most people up, especially Light Workers and Healers. Doing the inner work to be completely healed. Trying to kill the ego. Trying to become confident and not have any insecurities. Doing the work to FINALLY be confident enough. Doing the work to FINALLY be good enough... Worthy enough... Lovable enough... Deserving enough... Once you are completely healed, THEN you can show up in your life and relationships. THEN you can have all those things. This is what I unconsciously believed, and I see so many struggle with this exact thing. So....STOP DOING THE INNER WORK... If you want to build UNSHAKABLE confidence, you have to take IMPERFECT ACTION, toward who you want to become...toward the life you want to create. As you take action, you face the insecurities, the doubts, the worries, the fears...All this sh*t that lay unconsciously within. As you face all these things, you become the very thing you are moving toward. You become more confident. That's how it is intended...You HEAL by MOVING FORWARD!!! So, stop doing the inner work. Show up, as you are, perfectly imperfect. Accept all the insecurities and fears. FEEL them. And move forward. You will RECLAIM your power....REiGINITE your inner fire...and show up with UNSHAKABLE confidence! Watch the video as I go deeper into this message and my own story. What came up for you? Did it give you a gut punch? Did you feel relieved because this was the message you NEEDED to hear? I'd love to hear. Leave a comment below. When you're ready to REiGNITE Your Inner Fire, Reclaim your power, and show up with UNSHAKABLE Confidence, there are three ways I can help you... 1. Join my NEW REiGNITE Your Inner Fire FB Community. I dive deeper into the method to showing up more powerfully in your life and relationships. www.facebook.com/groups/reigniteyourinnerfire/ 2. Join one of my monthly REiGNITE workshops. (The video says to click on link to be put on waitlist....That isn't complete yet, so just sent me an email to tony@tonyfonte.com with the keyword "Reignite" and I will add you to the waitlist. 3. Book a REiGNITE Discovery Call to get a game plan to move forward, plus learn more about what it would be like to work together to help you achieve the life and relationship you desire FASTER! https://calendly.com/tonyfonte/reignitecall -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Music: Otis McDonald - Joe Bagale Support by RFM - NCM: https://bit.ly/2xGHypM

Have to be completely healed to feel "good enough." This has been a multi-layered unconscious belief for me. It's the reason I got addicted to healing. It's the reason why I stayed in this perpetual healing cycle. It's the reason I kept bringing up shit I was working through to my partner, thinking I was just being vulnerable. I was ALWAYS finding something to work through. (You know how frustrating that is for the people around me and to myself??) ALWAYS trying to figure out "what was wrong with me." Constantly trying to get rid of my ego, or shadow. Thinking I had to clear all my insecurities...I couldn't feel insecure at all. (having insecurities is weak, and my partner will think im weak too.) Creating this invisible goal line that I would constantly move as I got closer to it. I made it impossible to be completely healed and feel "good enough!" "I will allow myself to have a healthy relationship when i'm completely healed." "I will allow myself to show up, share my experience, wisdom, and gifts, when i'm completely healed." "When i'm completely healed, THEN, I will be deserving enough! THEN, I will be good enough." But, it was never good enough. I would always find something to heal. I stayed in the Dark Knight Of The Soul, and in the shadow. Although it wasn't serving me, It felt familiar in the chaos. Because having the healthy relationship was scary. Having the life I wanted was scary! Having inner freedom and peace all the time, felt so f*cking foreign to me! But, I don't want that anymore...I was making life hard. I was making my relationships hard. These are already challenging, but they don't have to be hard. It's exhausting and draining to live in this never ending perpetual loop. My guides reminding many, many, MANY f*cking times that it was time to step out of the shadow and heal by moving forward. The Divine Feminine was like "listen f*cker, i'm tired of constantly trying to hold space for you which is the Divine Masculine's job. I'm tired of giving you ideas and not moving forward." It's time to take action, and lead like you are intended to. Then, part of a coaching challenge, it hit me. I felt it deep...raw. I made the decision to take FINALLY take aligned, imperfect action. To FINALLY heal as I move forward. Facing the fears, the doubts, the worries, as I took each step. I did the work before thinking I had to heal to feel more confident and powerful. What i'm learning, it's getting on the stage, doing the thing, where you face all the sh*t, and move forward, where the confidence is built. Having the hard conversations. Taking action in spite of the fear. Showing up in your relationships. In spite of the gut wrenching fear, thoughts, knots in your stomach, wanting to run and vomit. This is how you build deeper connections in your relationships and life. You don't have to have it all figure out. Just f*cking start. Communicate along the way. Move through the sh*t. Grow. REPEAT, over and over and over. YOU ARE ALREADY GOOD ENOUGH!! Does this one hit you deep? Do you feel it within your Soul? What came up for you? Let me know in the comments below. Aaaaaaaaand...... If you are ready to go to the next level and and Re-ignite the 4 Pillars of Power: Passion, Purpose, Playfulness and Power to create a deeper connection in your relationships and life, there are a few ways we can work together. 1. Subscribe to my channel here for weekly content and stories to help guide you on your journey. https://bit.ly/3jLQmjq 2. Join one of my FREE Reignite Workshops 3. Learn more about and join the Conscious Connection Challenge https://bit.ly/theconsciousconnection 4. Learn more about the Reignite Program & Masterminds https://bit.ly/reignitethe4ps 5. Grab your FREE EBook on 20 Fun Date Ideas To Connect Deeper With Your Partner https://www.tonyfonte.com/fundates 6. Grab your Relationship Block Intuitive Healing Meditation https://www.tonyfonte.com/product-page/relationship-block-clearing 7. Book a personal guided intuitive energy healing & reading session https://www.tonyfonte.com/healing -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Music: Otis McDonald - Joe Bagale Support by RFM - NCM: https://bit.ly/2xGHypM

This week's message is all about the need for being perfect. Uggh, this has been a huge awareness for me. I mean, it's not foreign to me, but it goes deeper, and deeper, and deeper. The need to be perfect in my Intuitive guided energy healing meditations & readings. The need to be perfect in my relationships (I cant f*ck it up.) The need to be perfect as dad. The need to be perfect in my videos The need to be perfect and have it all figured out before showing up in my business. The need to be perfect in my healing. The need to be perfect in how I show up. The need to be perfect in EVERY F*CKING THING!! Its exhausting and unsustainable. Oh, and unnecessary. The need to be perfect.....translates to I don't feel good enough, or deserving enough. I have to be perfect in order to be enough. Otherwise, I will lose everything. My partner, money, business, friends, things. Afraid of Rejection. Because of this underlying belief, we tend to stall, stiff arm our dreams...the healthy relationships, the business, the life. Or otherwise "sabotage" it. We manifest the reality happening (the one we dont want) to fulfill the "see I told you that you weren't good enough!!) We create this barrier between what we want to manifest and our current beliefs and reality. I'm tired of being perfect. It's emotional and just f*cking stupid. I want to be me, light and dark, self and shadow, "good" and 'bad." All of me. Embrace it all. Showing grace as I continuously work toward becoming a better version of me. And you can accept all of me and grow with me, or you can move on!! We're already good enough. We have nothing to prove. We can show up imperfectly. In our relationships, life, businesses. Trying to be perfect to feel good enough is never ending, cuz we keep raising the bar. Let's allow ourselves to Just BE, and laugh at the moments when we fall down and the old stories creep up. And then move forward again, and again, and again. Watch the video as I go deeper into my story and the message Now it's your turn....What came up for you? Do you see the patterns of trying to be perfect in your life? What Aha moments came up for you? I'd love to hear. Leave a comment below! Aaaaaaaaand...... If you are ready to go to the next level and and Re-ignite the 4 Pillars of Power: Passion, Purpose, Playfulness and Power to create a deeper connection in your relationships and life, there are a few ways we can work together. 1. Subscribe to my channel here for weekly content and stories to help guide you on your journey. https://bit.ly/3jLQmjq 2. Join one of my FREE Reignite Workshops 3. Learn more about and join the Conscious Connection Challenge https://bit.ly/theconsciousconnection 4. Learn more about the Reignite Program & Masterminds https://bit.ly/reignitethe4ps 5. Grab your FREE EBook on 20 Fun Date Ideas To Connect Deeper With Your Partner https://www.tonyfonte.com/fundates 6. Grab your Relationship Block Intuitive Healing Meditation https://www.tonyfonte.com/product-page/relationship-block-clearing 7. Book a personal guided intuitive energy healing & reading session https://www.tonyfonte.com/healing -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Music: Otis McDonald - Joe Bagale Support by RFM - NCM: https://bit.ly/2xGHypM

The contradiction between being YOU and receiving love. I have seen this within myself and it has been shining bright AF as I continue taking imperfect action toward who I want to become, and what I want to create. I want to be myself AND I want to receive love, especially in a relationship. However, I seem to hit some heavy resistance. I am beginning to see this in the people I work with as well....I attract and work with many who are creating their own identity after years of having their identities outside of them. (It's more remembering who we are than it is creating a new identity.) This has been true for me. And really, I am in a "figuring myself out" phase now, going deeper into understanding who I am, why i'm here, why I have been doing the things I do, etc. It has been confusing and scary at times. Going into a semi seclusion to remove distractions so I can really begin connecting deeper (I, of course, wasn't aware this was happening.) Anyway, so back to the resistance. What the hell is creating the resistance? I mean, I want to be myself, so it should just happen, right?? LOL! Here is what came up for me as to WHY I was facing resistance, why there was a struggle (which btw, are signs that we have a deeper block to what we want.) I equated being myself to losing love. Which is true of most people who abandon themselves to and take on identities outside of them. I couldn't be myself in relationships (not fully anyway,) or I'd lose love. I couldn't be myself in my business, or I'd lose love (get rejected.) I couldn't be myself around my friends, or I'd lose love. I couldnt be myself around family, or i'd lose love. I would show parts of myself, but not all of me in most cases, or I wasn't consistent at fully being myself. So when I am doing the work, taking the action, to become myself more, those old f*cking patterns are coming up. They are familiar and trying to keep me "safe." Woooah Tony, don't do that. Remember as a kid when you were being yourself and you got rejected? Remember how your mom and dad stopped showing you love and meeting your basic needs? You can NOT be yourself and receive love bruh! This awareness is allowing me to feel into those old stories, reframe the belief, and move forward. Does it mean i'm healed and I'll never deal with this issue again! MAAAAAN, I f*cking wish!! HaHa!! Nah, it just means I become stronger and move through it faster. Watch the video as I go deeper into my story and the message. Now it's your turn....What came up for you? Did this message resonate with you? What Aha moments came up for you? I'd love to hear. Leave a comment below! Aaaaaaaaand...... If you are ready to go to the next level and and Re-ignite the 4 Pillars of Power: Passion, Purpose, Playfulness and Power to create a deeper connection in your relationships and life, there are a few ways we can work together. 1. Subscribe to my channel here for weekly content and stories to help guide you on your journey. https://bit.ly/3jLQmjq 2. Join one of my FREE Reignite Workshops 3. Learn more about and join the Conscious Connection Challenge https://bit.ly/theconsciousconnection 4. Learn more about the Reignite Program & Masterminds https://bit.ly/reignitethe4ps 5. Grab your FREE EBook on 20 Fun Date Ideas To Connect Deeper With Your Partner https://www.tonyfonte.com/fundates 6. Grab your Relationship Block Intuitive Healing Meditation https://www.tonyfonte.com/product-page/relationship-block-clearing 7. Book a personal guided intuitive energy healing & reading session https://www.tonyfonte.com/healing -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Music: Otis McDonald - Joe Bagale Support by RFM - NCM: https://bit.ly/2xGHypM

It's not success or failure were afraid of... I was on a mentoring and coaching call not too long ago. One of the coaches was talking about the fear of success and the fear of failure, which many relate to, including myself. I have done a lot of work in both of those area to embrace both. Then this mentor went on to say something that hit me hard. It was super powerful!! He said through his own work, he found it wasn't really success or failure he was afraid of, although those are valid layers. For himself, it was afraid of what he was going to lose if he stepped into the highest version of himself. What he was going to lose if he stepped into the business, life, and relationships he desired. WHO he was going to lose if he actually achieved and created who and what he wanted...fulfilling his dreams. It ripped me open. That was it for me!! Then all the stories came flooding to the surface that laid dormant for so many years that confirmed this. If I become a better version of myself, do I lose my partner? Do I lose my family? Do I lose friends? More importantly, do I lose MYSELF?!! (This one was massive.) In reality, we're trying and moving toward remembering our own identity. As we make this journey, we face all the familiar pain that tells us why we cant do that. And what happens if I do actually get the healthy relationships I desire? What happens if I do create this amazing business doing what I love, serving the f*ck out of people? What happens if I allow all this abundance and wealth in? Will I f*ck it up and lose it? Will I lose myself? It's the fear of losing something that is the deeper layer. What i'm learning....NO, you can't f*ck it up, and you aren't going to lose yourself, or others. (Sure, some may fall away as you move to new timelines...but, you CAN NOT LOSE WHAT IS MEANT FOR YOU!!) Maybe some leave for awhile then come back. The bottom line is this, as you allow all this in, you become more yourself. You are "losing" the old identities that were not you in the first place. I say identities, because there are many we hold onto. This can be scary AF because it is UNKNOWN! The old is "safe" and familiar. The key is to learn to move through it when it comes up and continue the journey. Watch the video as I go deeper into the message and my story on this. Now it's your turn....What came up for you? Is it really fear of what you may lose that is holding you back? What Aha moments came up for you? I'd love to hear. Leave a comment below! Aaaaaaaaand...... If you are ready to go to the next level and and Re-ignite the 4 Pillars of Power: Passion, Purpose, Playfulness and Power to create a deeper connection in your relationships and life, there are a few ways we can work together. 1. Subscribe to my channel here for weekly content and stories to help guide you on your journey. https://bit.ly/3jLQmjq 2. Join one of my FREE Reignite Workshops 3. Learn more about and join the Conscious Connection Challenge https://bit.ly/theconsciousconnection 4. Learn more about the Reignite Program & Masterminds https://bit.ly/reignitethe4ps 5. Grab your FREE EBook on 20 Fun Date Ideas To Connect Deeper With Your Partner https://www.tonyfonte.com/fundates 6. Grab your Relationship Block Intuitive Healing Meditation https://www.tonyfonte.com/product-page/relationship-block-clearing 7. Book a personal guided intuitive energy healing & reading session https://www.tonyfonte.com/healing

Today's message is about healing abandonment wounds. I am no stranger to this. Sometimes I get frustrated because I "thought I already dealt with this!" BUT, the healing journey is about peeling back the layers as we move forward. Abandonment wounds has come up a lot for me personally, but I was inspired to do this message after having a couple on a recent workshop of mine where the husband was projecting his insecurities on his wife. Constantly thinking she "was up to something." Getting angry and projecting his pain onto her. Trying to drag her down when she tries to improve herself. I was that guy so I feel his pain, and I called it out. I see this a lot with men, because they hold onto to so much and think they have to battle it alone. And it tears relationships a part. Even recently I noticed some patterns although I wasn't projecting insecurities, or anger, or manipulation. I was constantly "doing the work," trying to prove myself, clinging and anxious even if I didn't physically say anything. Chasing love. It came down to this. Abandonment wounds from a kid. Where I perceived being abandoned by my parents when they became emotionally unavailable to me...which by the way had nothing to do with me, but as a kid we don't f*cking know this. And then this all plays out in our relationships until we are aware and break the patterns to create something new. There is this underlying fear that we aren't good enough. That "she is up to something," or "she will leave and find someone new," or this constant fear of "not measuring up," comes from feeling abandoned and therefore not good enough. There are many different ways this can show up and a person can act out on it. Whether it's some of the things I mentioned above, or they withdrawal and become unavailable as a defense mechanism. The fear is "well, I don't want to be disappointed so I will disengage before they can." It's a pre-emptive strike to prevent being hurt. All of this unconscious of course. We have to feel through those abandonment wounds, and realize that what happened as a kid, has nothing to do with us. We are already good enough. Becoming aware and conscious of these wounds is necessary to create the healthy relationships and life we desire. Watch the video as I go deeper into the message and my story... Now it's your turn....What came up for you? Did this help you become aware of your own abandonment wounds? What Aha moments came up for you? I'd love to hear. Leave a comment below! Aaaaaaaaand...... If you are ready to go to the next level and and Re-ignite the 4 Pillars of Power: Passion, Purpose, Playfulness and Power to create a deeper connection in your relationships and life, there are a few ways we can work together. 1. Subscribe to my channel here for weekly content and stories to help guide you on your journey. https://bit.ly/3jLQmjq 2. Join one of my FREE Reignite Workshops 3. Learn more about and join the Conscious Connection Challenge https://bit.ly/theconsciousconnection 4. Learn more about the Reignite Program & Masterminds https://bit.ly/reignitethe4ps 5. Grab your FREE EBook on 20 Fun Date Ideas To Connect Deeper With Your Partner https://www.tonyfonte.com/fundates 6. Grab your Relationship Block Intuitive Healing Meditation https://www.tonyfonte.com/product-page/relationship-block-clearing 7. Book a personal guided intuitive energy healing & reading session https://www.tonyfonte.com/healing -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Music: Otis McDonald - Joe Bagale Support by RFM - NCM: https://bit.ly/2xGHypM

How Balancing the Ying/Yang within creates balance in your life and relationships. My daughter asked me recently what the ying and yang meant as it relates to spirituality and our experience. At the time I wasn't really sure how to answer it. I simply said it represents the Light and Dark sides of us. But I felt there was something deeper....so I asked... The Ying/Yang does represent the Light and Dark sides of us, but that is only part of the equation. It represents the Divine Masculine and Divine Feminine energies within each of us as well. The Light is our Divine nature, who we truly are. The dark represents our shadow self. So there is the Divine Masculine (Ying) and the Feminine (Yang) within, and the Wounded Masculine and Feminine within. Both are necessary for our evolution. Most of us reject the "dark side," of us. Trying to "heal it away," and get to the final destination of the Divine. It's this rejection of the shadow that creates imbalance and hell. It's the rejection of either the masculine or feminine within that creates hell. All of which holds us back from TRULY experiencing the life and relationships we TRULY DESIRE & DESERVE. When we go into one energy more than the other because of lack of trust, we create an imbalance. The key is to create balance within these energies, which will create more balance in your life and relationships. To do so, we must accept and embrace all aspects of ourselves. We each have our dominant energy that we live in, or desire to live in, but we need both to create more peace, freedom, and flow in our lives and relationships. Watch the video as I go deeper into this message. Now it's your turn....What came up for you? Have you been rejecting parts of yourself? What Aha moments came up for you? I'd love to hear. Leave a comment below! Aaaaaaaaand...... If you are ready to go to the next level and and Re-ignite the 4 P's; Passion, Purpose, Playfulness and Power to create a deeper connection in your relationships and life, there are a few ways we can work together. 1. Subscribe to my channel here for weekly content and stories to help guide you on your journey. https://bit.ly/3jLQmjq 2. Join one of my FREE Reignite Workshops 3. Learn more about and join the Conscious Connection Challenge Waitlist https://bit.ly/consciousconnectionchallenge 4. Learn more about the Reignite Program & Masterminds https://bit.ly/reignitethe4ps 5. Grab your FREE EBook on 20 Fun Date Ideas To Connect Deeper With Your Partner https://www.tonyfonte.com/fundates 6. Grab your Relationship Block Intuitive Healing Meditation https://www.tonyfonte.com/product-page/relationship-block-clearing 7. Book a personal guided intuitive energy healing & reading session https://www.tonyfonte.com/healing -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Music: Otis McDonald - Joe Bagale Support by RFM - NCM: https://bit.ly/2xGHypM

How I gave up on my drive... I was recently on a coaching call and one of my coaches was talking about his drive to create and make things happen in his life and business. He mentioned drive THREE times, and it hit me like a ton of bricks! I gave up on my drive. I either stopped trying, or was not consistent in my efforts. "Why did I give up on my drive?" I asked myself on the call. And the answers started coming like an automatic machine gun. I gave up because I always seemed to fall short....In careers, business, my dreams, having a healthy relationship. I was exhausted so I stopped, or lacked consistency. "Why try?!" I thought and believed unconsciously. It's too f*cking hard, and I will just end up disappointed." Maybe i'm not meant to have the life and relationships I have been desiring?? I mean, my track record of experiences has showed me that to be the case. But why? Then those answers came....I was trying to achieve all those things to prove that I was good enough. To prove that I was worthy enough. To prove that I was deserving enough. To prove that I was smart enough. That I wasn't the "f*ck up," my dad said I was (which btw was what he was told growing up.) But, none of it was good enough. I would not allow myself to prove I was any of those things. I felt life and relationships had to be hard, they had to be a struggle, in order to feel deserving of them. So, that is what I created. I have nothing to prove outside of me, only to myself. Life and relationships do not have to be hard in order for me to feel deserving. Challenging and hard are not the same thing. Challenges help us grow and expand, "hard" means we are resisting and making it so. Watch the video as I go deeper into my story and the message. Now it's your turn....What came up for you? Did you learn that you gave up on your drive as well and gained some clarity as to why? I'd love to hear. Leave a comment below! Aaaaaaaaand...... If you are ready to go to the next level and and Re-ignite the 4 P's; Passion, Purpose, Playfulness and Power to create a deeper connection in your relationships and life, there are a few ways we can work together. 1. Subscribe to my channel here for weekly content and stories to help guide you on your journey. https://bit.ly/3jLQmjq 2. Join one of my FREE Reignite Workshops 3. Learn more about and join the Conscious Connection Challenge Waitlist https://bit.ly/consciousconnectionchallenge 4. Learn more about the Reignite Program & Masterminds https://bit.ly/reignitethe4ps 5. Grab your FREE EBook on 20 Fun Date Ideas To Connect Deeper With Your Partner https://www.tonyfonte.com/fundates 6. Grab your Relationship Block Intuitive Healing Meditation https://www.tonyfonte.com/product-page/relationship-block-clearing 7. Book a personal guided intuitive energy healing & reading session https://www.tonyfonte.com/healing -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Music: Otis McDonald - Joe Bagale Support by RFM - NCM: https://bit.ly/2xGHypM